That’s right people…after all my strides and my typing and my search for self discovery I fucked up big time tonight. We can forget all the bullshit about…oh she is being too hard on herself, give yourself a break, it is a process. BLAH BLAH BLAH BULLSHIT!
So, I will give some background of my weekend and my day just to set up how I tore down some really great work on myself in one push of a fucking ass button.
I started off with my ex on Saturday telling me how sorry he was for not being able to be the husband that I deserved and how great I am and how regretful he is, blah blah blah…like what good does that do me now? NONE!!!! I was supposed to spend a weekend away with one of my best friends and things got mixed up and miscommunication happened and I did not end up going. (btw, I am using my temporary keyboard so excuse any extra spaces…it is a bit touchy) I picked up my parents at the airport and while I was waiting in the cell phone lot for them, I had a mini breakdown about poophead and ended up sending a message to my friend instead of him just to get it all out. That was good on my part. So yay for me. I ended up going out with that new guy on Saturday night and we had a great time. He is a gentlemen and I got a nice hug good bye. I hope he contacts me and asks me out again.
Sunday was a nice relaxing day.
So, today started off with a session with my coach, which was good. I made some great discoveries and even got a job well done from her. I watched the new Oprah’s Lifeclass about dating…it was very enlightening and began to read the book Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man. So here I am sitting my Starbucks, out, amongst the people, reading…and reading and I realized that when I was reading I was only thinking about poophead. Then I read this whole paragraph about a women’s love, it was so profound. It moved me…and here we go…yes…I copied the entire paragraph, pulled up my Facebook messenger, found his name, since I de-friended him and sent it to him.
There we go…YOU ARE A FUCKING IDIOT AND BORDERING ON CRAZY OBSESSED PERSON. Then I went outside, cried, went back in packed up my stuff and left.
What the hell is wrong with me? I mean seriously…upon doing that I was able to re-read what he had actually messaged me the last time I heard from him. Yes it did say that he did not feel that way about us anymore…it also said he cared about me a lot but it doesn’t feel right for him. And that he cannot give me what I am looking for. I’m not that man.
And now that I just typed that by looking at it…he saw what I sent to him almost an hour ago. I at least prefaced it by saying something to the effect of I know I am beating a dead horse. Like that somehow makes a difference.
WHY CAN’T I GIVE OVER HIM? Reading this book is making me sad. Steve Harvey says that if I man does not give you a title then you are not in his heart. He has not staked claim over you. He did. But then he did not and now he has on Facebook with that other girl.
I am a fucking fool and I want to run and hide and never appear again. IDIOT. IDIOT. IDIOT. WHY DO I CONTINUE TO DEMEAN MYSELF? AND SETTLE FOR NOTHING? OR AT BEST SCRAPS OF NOTHING?
I am hurting so much. I am in so much pain. All I want for him to do is hop in his car and show up at my door.
(i sadly know that is never, ever, ever going to happen)
M.